Ugly People say and write ugly things

Craig Rogers, co-founder of Abundant Life Academy regularly posts blogs to craigstephenrogers.com.  Abundant Life Academy is one of a few great Christian boarding schools for troubled teens, both boys and girls.

Ugliness is not a physical disorder, it’s a mental/emotional disorder

Ugly people!  Who are they and where do they come from.   Let me make it clear, when I reference the term “ugly people”, or “ugly person”, I am not referring to a person’s physical appearance.  In this blog my definition of “ugly” has to do with a person’s attitude, demeanor, mind-frame, belief system, actions, behavior, and/or their outlook on life in general.  We all know an ugly person or two, and we can all relate to the fact that ugly people are not fun people to deal with.  Moreover, its almost impossible to be in a healthy or fruitful relationship with an ugly person. An ugly person is someone who is self-absorbed, self-centered, narcissistic and mean-spirited. Ugly people are intolerant toward anyone who doesn’t share their view, they like to condemn those they don’t like, they are critical of others, especially anyone who would stand for integrity, fairness, or goodwill. Ugly people verbally (and sometimes physically) strike out against those they oppose, readily say mean and nasty things about others, mock those who are good-hearted, and seem to always plays a victim. Ugly people are shallow, negative, demanding, impatient, and rarely practice self-restraint, especially as it pertains to the use of ugly words.

I have a great deal of empathy and compassion for ugly people.  Ugly people don’t know that they act ugly, they have no idea how unattractive and dishonoring their behavior is to most people.  As a matter of fact ugly people see themselves as being beautiful and adored by most everyone.  To the ugliest of the ugly their beauty is in their opinion (usually their opinion is their disdain for others). Their opinion is forced upon others as it is paraded out for lesser beautiful (ugly) people to admire. Like Moth’s to the light, ugly people attract other ugly people as they share their hate, disdain, and disgrace toward others who dare to help. Ugly people congregate and eat together in the trough of hostility and hate for those they deem as unworthy.

Ugly people recoil at the thought of mutual respect.  Ugly people are greatly put off by the very notion of accepting others who have different opinions or ideas.  Ugly people are uncompromising, rigid, and stiff necked as it pertains to collaborative or cooperative organization.  Ugly people absolutely hate taking responsibility, and to attempt to hold them accountable usually creates a hostile reaction of great nastiness.  Their hatred of others who attempt to hold them accountable is never ending.  Ugly people are grudge holders, resentful, and bitter.  Ugly people hold all others to a higher standard but never think of keeping the standard for themselves.

Ugly people come in all sizes, colors, and shapes.  They can be any age, smart or dumb, loud or quiet.  Ugly people have one thing in common that is unmistakable – UGLY PEOPLE LOVE TO HURT OTHERS. Ugly people get a charge, a thrill, and a big fat grin at even the thought of saying mean and hateful things about those they despise. You can always spot an ugly person as they are the ones pointing out the negative flaws in other people, all-the-while counting themselves and their actions as being superior, intelligent, and completely honorable.

The ugly people are everywhere, every place, every town, every group.  They stick out like a sore thumb because they are the ones complaining about what everyone else is, or is not, doing.  The ugly people complain that they have been cheated, abused, taken advantage of… when the truth is the complete opposite.  Ugly people are those who talk behind other’s backs, ridiculing and mocking those who are not there to defend themselves.  Ugly people are nice as can be to your face, but they will publicly denounce, defame, and destroy others at a whim.  Ugly people do not like to be challenged, and see themselves above the rules, above the norms, above all expectations of others.

Who are these ugly people?  Where do they live, work, and congregate?  The ugly people are you and me! The truth is that at times we are all ugly people.  There is not a person alive that at one point wasn’t ugly toward others, spouting ugly hate, negating what is good, despising those who are good-hearted and lovely.  So, when an ugly person attacks you, demeans you, and says all kinds of nasty things about you…. Remember what it looks like when you are ugly…. Stop, think, and ask forgiveness as you forgive those who are ugly toward you!

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