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Troubled Teens and Emotional Intelligence Part II – Parental Abuse by Troubled Teens

You’re kidding me!  California parents being abused by teens?  Parental Abuse? That is very hard to believe.  Emotional Intelligence? What is Emotional Intelligence? Troubled teens with emotional retardation (lack of emotional intelligence) is the reason for the parental abuse, But the truth is that hundreds if not thousands of parents we have worked with over the years have described as “abuse”.  Parental abuse, in some cases the abuse that parents have suffered from their troubled teen has cause divorce, depression (severe at times), PTSD, financial ruin, and complete destruction of the family.  I am not even mentioning the abuse that the siblings of a troubled teen is forced to endure.  There is emotional trauma through acts of terror, constant threats of physical abuse, continual emotional blackmail, and many other forms of sheer terror.  But how?  How can this be?  Well, in California the story is the same… the child learned at an early age to go to a teacher and claim “abuse”, especially sexual abuse.  If you are an innocent Father who loves his children with all your heart, and in the act of parenting you discipline your 14-year old daughter, preventing her from having sex with a 17 year old boy, she can ruin your life with four little words, “my dad touched me”.  If I had a dime for every time a child revealed that they had used Child Protective Service, lying to teachers and social workers, using the system to force their parents to let them do the things they want, whatever that may be, I’d be a rich man.

Parental Abuse by Troubled Teens | Emotional Intelligence is no where to be found….

The sad fact is that I would assume that way too many offenders and abusers are not caught and teachers and social workers are not informed.  At the same time, way too many false claims are made and lives are destroyed.  If a 14 year old girl is “in love” with an older guy she is capable of being so selfish that she would destroy her parents and family in a way to “get her way”.  We call it entitlement, and it is ugly.  When we work with a child who comes to understand the devastation they have caused their parents in the “lie” to CPS the fall out is usually more than they can bare.  First, most don’t realize that they will be removed from their family, or their father will be removed from the home.  They don’t realize the financial impact and the fact that they won’t have all the resources they once had.  They have no ability to see the sequential impact and how it will eventually, yet swiftly, impact their freedoms and liberties.  At that point perhaps they have a bit of remorse and own up to the “lie/false claims” in order to get back what they have lost.  Its amazing how many social workers believe the child’s original claim but rarely believe their retraction.  It is also amazing how many parents are still viewed as “bad parents” and treated with disdain even after the investigation reveals that they are innocent the whole time and the child had lied in order to “get her way”.  It’s just amazing how parents in California and other child right’s States are looked upon as villains from day one, before any investigation has been conducted.

Once you have been accused of abuse or sexual assault your life is over and you are guilty until you prove beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are innocent. In the attempt to protect children the parent’s civil (individual personal rights) are sacrificed and there is no recourse or protective mechanism.  The parent’s presumed innocence is stripped and immediately, with or without evidence, they are stripped of all rights as if they have been convicted. But even then you are always under suspicion, and people on the outside of the family (employer, co-workers, friends, people at church) don’t ever know the “truth”, they only know that you are under investigation.  What if you are totally innocent and your spoiled brat daughter “get’s you back” and manipulated the system to force you to allow her to run her own life, especially her social life.  From the first moment on after a child makes a false claim to CPS, you as a parent, has lost your ability to parent.  The threat of using CPS is real, and the second or third false accusation could completely destroy anything that you have.  This is a nightmare that has befallen so many innocent families.

Part III coming up next…

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